What do you do when two of your closest friends are dating and you know that one is cheating on the other?
This is hard because if you are fairly close with both parties, you then have to decide what's more important. Which should always be to tell the truth even if it hurts. Now that we both understand that, as a precautionary I always tell my friends "I love you, but if I ever catch you cheating on someone, DO NOT be surprised when you find out I told them about it." I have no shame in that, and yes I would rather ruin a friendship with someone that i've had for 15 years then watch them cheat on someone. SO! being that I an such an expert in "cheaters" here are some steps that can help you through this awkward journey.
1. Always give the cheater the benefit of the doubt, and the chance to explain to you and to their significant other what happened and why.
2. Time. Then you will wonder how much time you will give person (A) to explain themselves. I always say "depends on the damage" although all cheating is wrong and not acceptable in any relationship, the extent of cheating all depends on the person. Personally, I give the person no longer then 24 hours to explain themselves.
3. As an F.Y.I before you decide "I am officially going to tell this person (B) about the other person (A) cheating" keep in mind that your person (A) will most likely call you a liar and every name in the book. So to prepare for the worst you should always have substantial evidence (printed emails, pictures of texts, saved texts, recorded conversations.) to prove that you aren't a liar and that person (A) is in fact, cheating.
4. So you did the right thing but now everyone hates you, at least one person does. All you have to do is explain to the person "You know what you did was wrong, I still love you as a friend, when you realize that, I'll be here" and in all honestly, if this person doesn't feel shitty about what they did then there is no reason to keep them around anyways.
thats a good question. It can be exciting to explore new places and try new things but keep it out of plan view of the public. If I am swimming with a bunch of my besties the last thing I want to see is you getting some hooker from behind in the water. Now if I weren't there, or any one for that matter, I can see how that would be a little exciting. To answer your question sex outside is all fun and dandy but sex in public is kind of dirty (i dont mean the good dirty)
Do this with your partner. Its fun and you will not be disappointed.
This was actually written by a dude and I think he took the words out of my mouth.